Is it worth it to HATE?

I imagine one of the reasons people cling to their hates so stubbornly is because they sense, once hate is gone, they will be forced to deal with pain. ~James Arthur Baldwin

As painful as it might be, feeling the feelings that come up for you are important. There's an expression: "Let it flow, then let it go."  There are processes that ask you to follow your feelings, name them, then just see what comes up next, and when you do that, eventually you come to a place that is clear of the negative emotions.  When you allow for the feelings, you'll be in a better position it let them go. 

While forgiving is a process that is for you and not even for the other person, it may be true that some things are unforgivable.  So then what? The idea is can you set yourself free? Can you?

My father taught me one way he used to relax himself to sleep at night. He would go through the muscles of his body, tense a group of muscles, then release. Eventually he would fall asleep. When I am stressed one of my most effective exercises is listing what I am grateful for, from the tiniest to the biggest (if you're a regular here, you must know this by now!). Sometimes when I am so upset, I just write and write about the upset, or I rant and rave privately (so no one else can hear me). It's kind of like puking (yes, vomiting!). You don't feel great to begin with but you sure feel better to have the poison out.

Feeling hate has a price to pay and the longer you hold on to it, the more you stew in it, the more damage it will cause (this is NOT about revenge, do you hear me?!). 

OK, so we're all human, I am not asking you to stuff the feelings. I am suggesting that you can put your focus and attention to the things in life that will BUILD you. Break the cycle and set yourself free!  

Freedom involves the abandonment of hate, 
because hate is the abdication of freedom. 
It is the projection of our conflicts onto an external force 
whom we can then blame, 
but only at the cost of denying responsibility. 
~Chief Rabbi Lord Sacks

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