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I love you enough to tell you the truth. Complaining doesn't do a dang thing. Complaining won't make your life better. In fact, it will drag you down, down, down into the depths of deeper crap.
We all know that hard things happen in life. There are things in life worth crying about. The loss of a loved one, you have to grieve. The loss of a pet, you need to grieve. But mostly crying about what is wrong with your life doesn't fix it. It doesn't lift you, and it doesn't make things different.
NEWS FLASH... Unhappiness does not bring happiness!!!
Blowing off steam is over rated. I've tried it thinking it might have some value is helping to get past things that have upset me. It just increases the upset to go over things again and again. YOU HAVE TO DO SOMETHING DIFFERENT.
Want love in your life? Don't cry about being lonely, JOY is what will attract love.
Want success in your life? No more waaa waaa waaa! Imagine the most successful people you know--what ever the area of success--and I'll bet you don't hear a lot of whining from them.
Complaining is a habit that you have to change. It will not be comfortable and it may not be easy. It may even take some effort. Like the effort to look around your life and find a reason a day to be happy.
Create a new habit of noticing and acknowledging things that will make you feel good. This is a place to start. You can do this!
There are a number of things in life that you might want to release:
I'm exhausted just thinking about this partial list of possibilities. Right now is a great time to "change" your way of doing things if you need to let go of the old crap and bring in more of what you really love.
What ever "it" is that you want to get over, there are things you can do to let go. The question is, do you really want to "get over it"? Do you really want to let it go? Sometimes there is an aspect inside of each of us that is actually served by holding on. Could it be that you just know what "it" is and letting "it" go means you have to go into new territory?
You could just keep going until you are sick and tired of being sick and tired. Probably you've gotten over disappointments or upset in your past. There is probably something in your life that you can look back on and not feel so upset thinking about it. So you know it's possible.
Now, you just have to decide that you want to let go and the opportunity to release will show up. Maybe this blog post is just that for you! So if you're really ready experiment with these few tips and see what happens.
Let it flow, then let it go, also called free-form writing or automatic writing. Put all the upset onto a piece of paper; then destroy the paper. (This is best if done by hand.) Don't read it, just destroy it. Believe me when I tell you that if you keep it and later find it, all the upset can come flooding back. If you destroy it, you may actually forget the details of your upset!
Steep yourself in the new thought. That means that you surround yourself in an environment that squeezes out the old, unwanted thoughts or even emotions. I keep ideas in the back of my mind to go to when I find myself thinking things I don't want to think. You can do this with uplifting music (or even one song that you can go to), a favorite food (someone I know uses sushi), or pictures you cut out of a magazine. Try taking photos of the things that make you the happiest in your daily life, then print them and surround yourself with what you love.
Ask. Who are you asking? Ask the highest aspect of your soul, or ask God; ask your angels (you do know that everyone, everyone, has angels around all the time, right?). What are you asking? Ask for Divine assistance in releasing what needs to be released. Ask to forget the things that upset you. Memories can and often do fade with age. Some of those memories are worth forgetting.
Declare that you are releasing, letting go, or getting over it. Until it is real because it will become your new reality if you really want it to. Seriously.
This doesn't necessarily all happen at once. It can, but if it doesn't, know that the movement into being free from "it" is happening step by sweet step.
You can do this!
Do something right now (baby steps!!) while you're thinking of it.
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It may seem like you're trying and trying to change things in your life but nothing's changing, nothing's moving. I am here to tell you my dear reader, that even if you don't see results right now, you are effecting change in your life.
Each small change you make will, over time, have a big impact.
If you eat at a fast food restaurant one time it's not really a big deal. But if you each fast food every day, you will gain weight. If you study a new language one time, you will not speak a new language. But if you study every day for a set time--even five minutes a day--you will learn to speak that new language. Same with exercise of course. If you exercise only one time, even for five hours, it will not have the same impact as exercising every day for 15 or 20 minutes.
The small changes you make in your life do have an impact even if you don't see it right away. So stay strong, be patient, and keep on making those little tweaks so that you are loving and living happier and healthier.
You really can do this!
The walnut tree in my back yard lost the last of its leaves for winter. We're past the fall now and full on into the winter. And the walnut tree just looks stagnant, like it's just taking a break from producing anything. Only on closer examination, you can se the tips of the trees are ready to burst open at the first sign of spring!
Just because you may feel like not much is happening in your life, doesn't mean that things are stagnant. Energy moves in waves and cycles. Sometimes you just need to lay low. When the next wave of energy rises within you, trust that you can catch that wave for some new movement. Visualize what you want for yourself in your life. See it clearly and trust that the opportunity will arise for you to step into what you envision. Be ready to take action in the right time! It doesn't all happen at once and it doesn't happen on demand either.
Hang in there. You are precious and good just exactly where you are right now.
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Are you listening? Are you listening to what is going on inside of you? Each one of us is such a complex being. What I find over and over and over and over again is that each one of us has the knowing inside for clarity about what is best to do or not do. The tricky part is learning to sense the the truest part of your inner knowing and not to be tricked by the mind or emotions or impulses. This is about owning your own personal power in the deepest way.
The best way to hear that truest inner guidance that comes from the highest place of the soul is to be still and quiet. And then Listen. Listen. Listen.
Self-forgiveness is one of the most healing actions you can bring into your life. And right now you have a chance to take the healing light of self-forgiveness to a very deep place in your heart.
Did you know that it's important to do self forgiveness regularly? We humans tend to be hard on ourselves. It's important and healthy to evaluate what we do, how we behave, etc. And, when it's time for inner accounting the idea is to open to the opportunity to improve; then be careful to let go of the mistakes and errors in judgement. The idea here is to recognize that you are a precious child of the Creator and to free yourself to move forward in a tender and encouraging way. If you were doing a sport and the coach told you something to improve your game, would you tantrum and cry about it, or would it be more worth your while to practice more and implement the guidance? No brainer, right? So why do we forget and "beat ourselves up?" But don't beat yourself up for beating yourself up. Just clean up, get clear, and move forward with joy. Breathe.
Exercise for your life: Place your hands over your heart. Close your eyes and notice your breath deepening. You can say: "I forgive myself. I forgive myself for any and all mistakes I've made. I forgive myself for any judgements I've held. I now release any negative emotions or thoughts. I fill myself with love and kindness as I open to my inner wisdom and strength. I am grateful."
Rinse. Repeat as needed.
Don't worry if it doesn't feel like much is happening at first. Keep going. Forgiveness and self-forgiveness is like drinking water; you really need to do it daily to keep healthy. This stuff really does work
Thanks to morguefile.com and duane_j for the neat photo of graffiti art.
Overwhelm is that feeling that there-is-too-much-to-do-and-how-will-I-ever-get-it-done-with-so-much-on-my-plate-right-now-anyway kind of rush. You can get like a deer crossing the road and then freezes when she sees the oncoming headlights.
So what to do when you get "deer in the headlights syndrome?"
Heave a juicy sigh and let go of it all for just a few seconds.
Center your thoughts on the inside and ask:
What is the one thing I can do now that will serve me the most in this moment?
Trust your guts.
Say thank you.
Take action: a baby step is enough.
The idea is to take small steps in the direction of your goals and dreams. (Make sure they are your goals and dreams.)
One step at a time gets you to your destination, one potato peeled starts dinner, one paragraph written starts the ball rolling, one hug or smile starts the healing where there's pain.
You can do this.
Thanks to Matthew Hull and Morguefile.com for the great photo.
Live the extraordinary life you deserve.
Aunt Laya inspires and encourages you to live the life you want for yourself! She'll tell you the truth, even when it's not always so easy to hear so that you can learn to handle the hard stuff of life and be your best, happiest self. Always with love and caring.