What is the secret to happiness? It's not really that complicated.
Step into gratitude.
I just heard the quote, "If you're grateful for everything, you're grateful for nothing," and that means get detailed with your gratitude. I just took a workshop that taught us to be very detailed with gratitude. How detailed? Well, think of something you're grateful for. Do you love to paint? How about the hairs of smallest brush you have or the color carmine red? Are you grateful for summer? Well, how about gratitude for the leaves of your favorite shade tree, or the pulp in lemons?
Are you starting to get the idea? So here's the thing: You have to practice gratitude every day; really do it. Personally I usually start each morning with a very short prayer of gratitude for coming back into the world. I like to go to sleep listing things I'm grateful for as I fall asleep. When I'm really feeling down, I like to play what I call "The Gratitude Game" with my husband or a friend. Take turns listing things you're grateful for.
If you find it hard to think about what you might be grateful for, then this is really the right exercise for you. Think about the sparkle on the greeting card you got. Think about the knobs on the drawers that make them easy to open. Think about the filter on your faucet so you don't get sand in your water.
Still not sure? Experiment with this daily for a month and I guarantee your life and attitude will change for the better. You will feel better and happier. Start now.
There are a number of things in life that you might want to release:
I'm exhausted just thinking about this partial list of possibilities. Right now is a great time to "change" your way of doing things if you need to let go of the old crap and bring in more of what you really love.
What ever "it" is that you want to get over, there are things you can do to let go. The question is, do you really want to "get over it"? Do you really want to let it go? Sometimes there is an aspect inside of each of us that is actually served by holding on. Could it be that you just know what "it" is and letting "it" go means you have to go into new territory?
You could just keep going until you are sick and tired of being sick and tired. Probably you've gotten over disappointments or upset in your past. There is probably something in your life that you can look back on and not feel so upset thinking about it. So you know it's possible.
Now, you just have to decide that you want to let go and the opportunity to release will show up. Maybe this blog post is just that for you! So if you're really ready experiment with these few tips and see what happens.
Let it flow, then let it go, also called free-form writing or automatic writing. Put all the upset onto a piece of paper; then destroy the paper. (This is best if done by hand.) Don't read it, just destroy it. Believe me when I tell you that if you keep it and later find it, all the upset can come flooding back. If you destroy it, you may actually forget the details of your upset!
Steep yourself in the new thought. That means that you surround yourself in an environment that squeezes out the old, unwanted thoughts or even emotions. I keep ideas in the back of my mind to go to when I find myself thinking things I don't want to think. You can do this with uplifting music (or even one song that you can go to), a favorite food (someone I know uses sushi), or pictures you cut out of a magazine. Try taking photos of the things that make you the happiest in your daily life, then print them and surround yourself with what you love.
Ask. Who are you asking? Ask the highest aspect of your soul, or ask God; ask your angels (you do know that everyone, everyone, has angels around all the time, right?). What are you asking? Ask for Divine assistance in releasing what needs to be released. Ask to forget the things that upset you. Memories can and often do fade with age. Some of those memories are worth forgetting.
Declare that you are releasing, letting go, or getting over it. Until it is real because it will become your new reality if you really want it to. Seriously.
This doesn't necessarily all happen at once. It can, but if it doesn't, know that the movement into being free from "it" is happening step by sweet step.
You can do this!
Do something right now (baby steps!!) while you're thinking of it.
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Of course, I don't really mean a real shower or bath. I'm talking about the cleaning up of the emotions or thoughts. It's a theme here. :-)
What makes me an "expert" is that I have studied this area of life extensively. And I practice what I preach, too. In graduate school, we walked the walk; all the work we did to learn counseling skills was turned inwardly. As one person said to me, "Well, it makes sense: you can't wash windows if your glasses are dirty." Since I graduated (over 20 years ago!), I have continued to read books, attend lectures and online summits, even as I have written, given speeches, and been interviewed.
Guess what? Life continues to bring challenges into my life! I don't get out of it. So even as I share the ways to lift your spirit or live your dreams, I also face my own personal challenges. I apply all the same tools to my life as I recommend to you. I experiment on myself and if it works for me, I share.
If I'm the "expert" then I should have mastered this by now, don't you think? But that's as silly as saying that if I exercised for two years, that I don't need to exercise any more.
We eat, are sated, digest, get hungry, eat again.
We exercise, we rest, we need to move again.
Water is like emotions, they can be fluid, steamy hot, or icy cold. So to keep your emotional self healthy, you sometimes need to talk about it, sometimes let it go, sometimes transform, and all the time forgive (the truest form of letting go). It's like bathing. You bathe but that doesn't mean you're done for life just because you took one shower. You have to keep yourself clean.
Remember what bathing was like as a kid? You didn't always want to get into that tub. But usually, once you did, you could have some fun getting clean. So, take the risk of getting your thoughts and feelings clean and clear. Ask for help if you need help and don't stop until you get the clarity that brings you true inner peace. It won't last forever. You'll need to process again, but each time you do, you'll come out "smelling like roses." It's worth it!
Thanks to morguefile.com and
Are you ready to shake yourself up for a better life with one of the best tools ever?
Simply say, “thank you,” plain and simple. A lot. Really. Powerful.
Understanding this will never get old. Knowing how to use this tool will remedy some of the hardest times in life.
If you find yourself anxious, or worried, feeling down, or especially lacking, take a step back from your troubles and say “thank you.”
Thank the mailman.
Thank the street cleaner.
Thank the checkout clerk at the grocery store.
Thank someone in your family who has done or said something kind.
Thank your pharmacist, builder, web designer, jeweler, inspirational speaker, virtual assistant, friend, client, teacher, or student for showing up in your life.
(This list is inspired by some of the people who get this ezine—you know who you are!)
Heck, go ahead and thank God or thank goodness too, what the heck.
Try saying thank you for what’s missing in your life, because it’s what’s missing that makes you strive and grow to become more.
Gratitude will open channels for you to receive more.
Be creative! Draw a “thank you” picture. Do a “thank you” dance. Sing a “thank you” song. Eat a Thanksgiving meal—with an all original menu (or not)—in June. Have a “thank you” party.
My mom (who is nearly 89 years young) learned from a friend of hers to say, “What would I do without you?” when someone has helped her with something. It gets a smile. When you’ve given someone else the gift of appreciation, you’ve lifted someone’s spirits. You can’t help but find yourself lifted up too.
Last month I found myself focusing in a pretty negative space. I asked my husband (who is a very good sport) to go back and forth with me sharing gratitude. Sounds corny but we took turns saying something we were grateful for. The results were brilliant and peaceful.
You’re allowed to be grateful for anything big or small, in fact, nothing is too big or too small to feel gratitude about.
I hope your results are brilliant too.
“I find that the more willing I am to be grateful for the small things in life, the bigger stuff just seems to show up from unexpected sources, and I am constantly looking forward to each day with all the surprises that keep coming my way!” ~Louise L. Hay
Thank you for sticking with me as I blunder my way though ezine experiments.
Thanks to mouguefile.com and lukeok for the great photo.
I found this quote and LOVE it.
"just when the caterpillar
thought the world was over,
it became a butterfly…"
You know why.
Because it means that we are never done.
It means that we have another chance and another, and another to find the beauty within ourselves and each other. It means that there is something called "hope;" not something that is a maybe/maybe not kind of thing, but a potential that we can into moment by moment. And for the times when we fall down or fail or blunder-yet-again, we know that we can get up, brush ourselves off, and rise just a little bit higher than we were before.
With much love,
Live the extraordinary life you deserve.
Aunt Laya inspires and encourages you to live the life you want for yourself! She'll tell you the truth, even when it's not always so easy to hear so that you can learn to handle the hard stuff of life and be your best, happiest self. Always with love and caring.