Bad guys (and women) don't look like bad guys. They may friend you on social media or catch you at the mall. They may hang out with you for months before they make a move. They may seem nice. But they are lying to get what they want, and what they want will hurt you. They only care about the fix they will get for themselves (like money or sex). They are very cunning, smooth talking tricksters. They can manipulate people to get what they want. Predators might make it appear like they're not strangers. One tactic predators use is to "friend" someone, and that can be in real life or on social media. If it's online, they probably have a fake profile with fake photos to give the illusion of being someone they are not (like more attractive or younger or safer). The thing about a liar is that they lie. And they're good at it. They know where people young and old are vulnerable. They know the weaknesses of their victims. Everyone, everyone, has vulnerabilities. The smooth talking liars and the frightening liars want to put people in a position that they can't defend themselves. They are lying when they say they are friends. They are lying when they say they understand (they do understand vulnerabilities). They are lying when they say they can solve your problems. They are lying when they turn cruel and say that their victims are worthless or undeserving. Liars lie. They may start one way but then use theft, violence, or fear. Some of you know this hard story already, but you haven't reached the end of the story. Because in the end you can be safe, you can be protected, you can heal. Stay awake. Stay safe. If you are caught in the trap of a liar right now, reach out for help. You are loved. You are lovable. Please "Like" and share. Photo by Holger Link on Unsplash
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It's not "business as usual." During this time of Coronavirus we've got some challenges. Here are a few encouraging thoughts. Love, Aunt Laya Wednesday, March 18
Thursday, March 19 You can download this book to your device from Amazon here: www.tinyurl.com/auntlaya Written from the heart for your heart. Love, Aunt Laya All teens deserve the best opportunities and guidance to succeed. The question is why do some parents feel challenged in guiding their teens to success. We have some easy answers from the experts, including myself! Click here and learn the secrets in how to best guide your teen to lead happy and healthy lives. - Free for a Limited Time! Click here!
#KeenOnTeens I hope to see you there! Love, Aunt Laya Happy Day of Love! Everyone, young, old, and in between needs to hear they are loved. Here's an easy way to express your love or to breathe in the love that is meant for you! To share the love, we're giving away the children's picture book, "I Love You So Much" as a free download on Amazon. Feb 13, 14, 15, 2020 You really are so loved and you really are so lovable.
Take it to heart, have the courage let it in! And of course, share with those you love! Aunt Laya You barely have to change anything to change everything. Whaaat? If you change your direction by just a few degrees (remember geometry?) and you've changed your destination entirely! You don't have to do that much to change your whole life. Sometimes we get so caught up in feeling overwhelmed that we do nothing. People wallow in their pain or debt or unhealthy relationships. You can complain or you can take one more step in the direction you want to head. Is your space a cluttered mess? Just clear one drawer or table top, just one. When that happens, there is a domino effect, everything else will move. It may be slow, but it will move. Feeling lonely? One small smile to someone else can change the whole day. Feeling stuck? One phone call might just get things moving. Get the idea? So, be brave in a small way. Change one small thing in your world for the better. One small change. Attitude, environment, action. You've got this! Love, Aunt Laya Photo by Cécile Brasseur on Unsplash
“Fight for your position, and it’s yours.”
A wise man said that to me and it took a while for the lesson of it to sink in. It finally did so I’m here to share the power of that wisdom with you. If you feel like a victim and you want to prove to someone else—or the world—that you are a victim: You are a victim. You choose powerlessness. You choose limitation. If life isn’t fair and you want to hang on to the way you’ve gotten the raw end of the deal, guess what? You get to wallow in the hurt and anger. Psychologist and holocaust survivor Edith Egar said, ““If you blame, you’re still a child.” So, are you ready to grow into something freer and happier? Growing is never ending so go gently: it's not about beating yourself up for mistakes. It is about claiming the glorious gift of freedom! Instead of mentally chaining yourself to the prison of dark thoughts try asking yourself “What is the attitude that will best serve me right now?” You may find answers that improve your life. If you can’t come up with a good shift to make, reach out. (Well, you’re here so you’re on it!) The idea here is to steer your thoughts on purpose. Your thoughts create your emotions. So what are the emotions you want to spend your time in? Every one of us has the same twenty-four hours in a day. What makes those hours become pleasure or pain? Attitude! It is natural to want to process the hurtful thing that someone said or did—and sometimes that really does need to happen and maybe even with a professional who can teach you the tools to release the pain and move toward the pleasure. It’s your choice. It’s a real choice. What happens to you in life is not always about choice. How you respond to what happens is always your choice. You don’t have to do this alone. Find a few people you admire and ask for advice. If you want to know how to lay bricks, you ask a bricklayer. If you want to know how to have a happy relationship, you ask someone in a long time happy relationship. Look for the successful people in your world and find out what they do to keep a good attitude in life. This bears repeating: It’s your choice. It’s a real choice. What happens to you in life is not always about choice. How you respond to what happens is always your choice. Guest post by |
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